I had a list of things I wanted in the perfect {for me} partner. A physical handwritten reminder of “THE GUY”, that I wrote before I knew Dave existed. I firmly believe that there is something about putting things out to the universe. Without getting too spiritual mumbo jumbo about it, I’ll just say that I’ve had good luck with the list.
I met the Davester a couple months later.
My list contained things like must own a suit, impresses my Meme, makes my sisters laugh, loves my family, opens my car door, amazing sex, intelligent, funny. A ridiculous amount of really specific, quirky little things that I wanted. After Dave and I decided to get married, I came across the list. At that point, I had forgotten about writing it years earlier and realized that he met every single one of those weird, quirky items. I mean really, who still opens car doors in this day and age? Certainly not 20-something college age dudes. Unless your name is Dave.
So you don’t have to believe in things like this, I’m ok with that.
My girlfriend Ann Marie always makes fun of the fact that I had this list. She makes fun of me for a lot, this girl… she’s lucky I still love her to bits. The list has been a huge topic though and we laugh about it all the time.
Dave does something stupid. “Hey Michelle, was that on the list?”
Back in 2008, she was really exasperated about dating and I told her to make one for herself. Make the list, I said. And she ignored me for years. I know it was years because I did email searches talking about the list when I decided to write this post and couldn’t believe how long she ignored me. I would say, Ann Marie make the damn list, and she would just ignore me some more.
And then in 2011, after a particularly heinous love disaster, she wrote me an email saying she finally did it.
She made the list.
A few months later, she met her Dave.
And I asked her, for the purposes of this post if she still had the list. {She did.} And just how closely he matched the list. {Dead on.}
Fess up. Did you have a list?
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11 comments:
i didn't have a list but love the idea, probably cause i married my HS sweetheart and have been together with him for like ever;) and so crazy that Dave met every single item:) love that! so funny your friend always made fun and then finally gave in..........
I did not have a list. I married my high school sweetheart.
I didn't have the list, but I do believe in putting it out there to the universe. Both of your stories are heart warming and awesome!
Aww, I love this! I did not have a list but I think that is such a great idea. I have a friend who is still struggling with finding the right one and I'm going to suggest this one to her. Here's hoping she'll find her Dave!
OF COURSE I HAVE THE LIST! And like you I met T-bone about a month or so later.
The only thing on my list was that my Father had to approve of him. Every guy I dated my Father hated. Then he met Rob and agreed that yes this was definitely the man I was going to marry.
Awww I love it!!
I had a list... John met every single item (20 to be exact) Since John has died and his family wants me to start dating again I have pulled the list back out and added a few things since my life has changed slightly since the first time I wrote it.
Love it!
Wish I had a list. Actually, I think I did. It was just 2 items long:
1) stable
2) hot
Marc fits it to a T! ;)
That's crazy.
There was one thing on my list, and...I got screwed anyway. Are there second chances at this sort of thing?
(Also, my internet privileges should be revoked after the second glass of wine.)
I didn't have a physical list, but I decided well before meeting Jon (but after my first love disaster) that my ideal guy was outdoorsy, athletic, a great shagger, funny and a good listener. Nailed it. I win.
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