I had a list of things I wanted in the perfect partner.
A physical handwritten reminder of “THE GUY”, that I wrote before I knew Dave existed. I firmly believe that there is something about putting things out to the universe. Without getting too spiritual mumbo jumbo about it, I’ll just say that I’ve had good luck with the list.
I met Dave a few months later.
My list contained things like must own a suit, impresses my Meme, makes my sisters laugh, loves my family, opens my car door, great sex, intelligent, and makes me laugh. It was a ridiculous amount of really specific, quirky little things that I wanted. After Dave and I were engaged, I randomly came across the list, long since forgotten about. I realized that he met every single one of those weird, quirky items.
I mean really, who do you know that still opens car doors in this day and age? Certainly not 20-something college age dudes. Unless your name is Dave.
So you don’t have to believe in things like this, I’m ok with that.
My girlfriend Ann Marie always makes fun of the fact that I had this list. She makes fun of me for a lot, she’s lucky I still love her to bits. The list has been a huge topic though and we laugh about it all the time.
Dave does something stupid.
“Hey Michelle, was that on the list? I’ll bet it was.”
Back in 2008, she was really exasperated about dating and I told her to make one for herself. “Make the list Ann Marie,” I said. And she ignored me for years. I know it was years because I did an email search talking about the list when I decided to write this post and couldn’t believe how far back it went ignored. I would say, “Ann Marie make the damn list,” and she would just ignore me some more.
And then in 2011, after a particularly heinous love disaster, she wrote me an email saying she finally did it.
She made the list.
A few months later, she met her Dave.
And I asked her, for the purposes of this post if she still had the list. {She does.} And just how closely he matched the list. {Dead on.}

Fess up. Did you have a list?