We all want to know that we don’t suck, that we’re noticed, that we’re capable, that we’re heard, that we’ve made someone’s life better, that we’ve done something great. You certainly don’t need it to determine your self-worth, but it still makes you feel good to hear someone else say it. And hey, if we’re honest, not everyone has that internal voice shouting, “You are awesome.” Those people need you to say it on their behalf even more.
Go on and admit it, it’s nice to receive an honest compliment no matter who you are.
How often do you hear when you’ve done something great? And really, how often do you say it, or even notice, when you see good things going on around you?
Over the weekend, my sister Lyndsey and I were talking about a physician that called her boss and told him how she had gone above and beyond to help his patient. Now, any of you who know Lyndsey aren’t surprised in the least that she would go above and beyond for someone. That is just her. This particular physician isn’t typically someone who notices support staff. In fact, he’s often quite dismissive, so that he noticed and made sure to say so had a huge impact on her.
Two minutes out of his day to make a phone call, such a little thing, made her feel fantastic. I encouraged her to turn around and do that for someone else. Then, I thought maybe I should take my own advice.
My six year old enjoys knowing that we think he’s done a great job on his schoolwork. Dave needs to hear more often that I notice all of the little things he does for me and how much I admire how hard he works for his family. The vice principal at Finn’s school greets every child, their parents, and even their younger siblings by name. She should probably know I think that connection she has, it makes a huge difference in the community there. My sixteen year old cousin just raised almost $1100 for JDRF on behalf of her friend, she should know how proud we are of her. And that’s just the start.
I spend a lot of time complaining when I notice something awful. There is a place for that too, don’t get me wrong. The tough truth is I sometimes catch myself in a cycle of being overly critical and recognizing the ugly things more than the good. I am far from Pollyanna most days, but I don’t want to be that cynical, belittling, jackass either. No one likes that person, least of all staring back at yourself in the mirror.
It just takes a conscious thought to fix that.
I am going to notice good things.
And you will.
It doesn't cost you a thing, maybe a moment of time, to acknowledge it and tell someone that they are fabulous.
So, I challenge you to do that this week, tell five people that you notice. Who is going to be first on your list?